Apostle Paul wrote, “28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28
This statement could be one of the main reasons that some believe women can serve in any role that a man does.
Yet Paul also wrote, “But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3
If “head” is used figurative for authority, and the headship of Christ over man is not merely cultural, then the headship of man over woman is as literal as is the headship of Christ over man.
But what does this headship mean? Is it a contradiction to the statement that there is “in Christ” "neither male nor female?”
There can be a distinction in roles between male and female that relate to this life that do not relate to the resurrected life in the age to come. Paul also said, “I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.” 1 Timothy 2:12 Is this just a cultural issue, or is it a fundamental principle? In the requirements of an elder/ bishop (overseer)--I'll use “elder” from here on--of the Christian assembly, we see that the elder is a man: “If a man desires the position of a bishop, he desires a good work. 2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife...” 1 Timothy 3:1-2
Obviously, some believe women can fill the role of elder, probably seeing Paul's restrictions as cultural, while others may not allow such a role for women yet allow women to speak (some say “preach”) to the Christian assembly, probably justifying it on the grounds that she is still under authority of a male elder.
The role of deacon is extended to women probably because the word translated “wives” can be translated “women”: “11 Likewise, their wives [or women] must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.” 1 Timothy 3:11 Yet as you read on, Paul says, “12 Let deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.” 1 Timothy 3:12 The word for “deacon” is really just a transliteration of the Greek word into English, and it means “minister.” Yet it is presented as an official role/ office in the church and not just a general reference to ministering. We have the account in Acts 6:1-6 where 7 men were chosen to fulfill a service-type-role. Yet again, we have the reference to Phoebe as a servant in the Church, using the Greek word for “deacon”: 1 I commend to you Phoebe our sister, who is a servant of the church in Cenchrea, 2 that you may receive her in the Lord in a manner worthy of the saints, and assist her in whatever business she has need of you; for indeed she has been a helper of many and of myself also." Romans 16:1-2 Was she of the office of deacon, or just a servant/ minister in general, that any believer can fulfill?
I believe this all boils down to the issues of roles and authority in the Church function. I don't believe it is just about culture and customs but divinely establish roles. There may be some room for compromise, and I'm sure compromise is going to happen due to the times and culture we live in, especially with girls being raised to believe they can be anything they want, and they can do anything as good or better than a man.
I don't believe this discussion about roles has to be about who could do a better job. It's about Divinely appointed roles in this age. And in this age, there are differences between the sexes that make them better suited for their particular roles, whether in marriage and raising children, or in the Church.
Men are to live with their wives with the understanding that they are the “weaker vessel”: “ 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7 Is she physically weaker, or psychologically weaker, or culturally less significant or more vulnerable? One will pick what best fits their view about women. I do know that generally, men are physically stronger--though there are exceptions, and we see that the transgender issue affects women more than men in athletic competition--and that men can usually handle criticism better than women—saying something negative about a woman's appearance, and she will never forgive you, but a man will more likely blow it off.
Women and men are generally different, and each have their strengths and weaknesses. This is probably due to their natural differences and what they were designed to do. Women and men can do each other's roles in about anything, except men cannot have babies and women cannot impregnate. There will be times when men can do better what a woman generally does, and vise-versa. Both women and men suffer from the same problem of having a sinful disposition, and both can have evil thoughts and do evil. Men generally want to be significant, and women want to be secure, though both sexes want a degree of significance and security. But these basic needs are fulfilled by husbands loving their wives and wives respecting their husbands. If the wife is seeking to be significant outside the marriage relationship, such as in seeking a career at the expense of the marriage or family, then there may be problems in the marriage relationship. It is typical for men to seek a career that provides for his family and gives him that significance naturally needed.
It will seem women are happier if they feel secure in their marriage relationship and have their significance in having children and managing the home, in which she can have an impact on their children's' character. Of course, the husband and wife need to work out what is expected of each in their marriage roles. The instruction by Apostle Paul concerning younger widows seems right for young women: “Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.” 1 Timothy 5:14 How many women put a career first—after years of college, and then regret getting too old to have children? They have been raised to be independent and be prepared for a failed marriage, and then when they are old, they lack fulfillment, because they went against the natural design.
Of course, women can do probably most things that a man can do. They may be able to do it better. They can carry a gun and go into combat. But what about the roles God intends for them? Are either male or female better suited to do the opposite sexes traditional roles? Yes, there are exceptions. But both men and women are subject to a fallen nature: "The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it?” Jeremiah 17:9. Both can fail at their roles or doing the other's role. We should not pit one sex against the other. Though both male and female are one in Christ, they were physically designed for different roles in life. Both should find their significance and security in those unique roles without the need of denigrating one to raise up the other. After all, God created the woman from man to be “a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:20