Jacob loved, Esau hated?

¹⁰ And not only this, but when Rebecca also had conceived by one man, even by our father Isaac ¹¹ (for the children not yet being born, nor having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works but of Him who calls), ¹² it was said to her, "The older shall serve the younger." ¹³ As it is written, "Jacob I have loved, but Esau I have hated." Romans 9:10-13

God's priority of commitment and devotion was to Jacob/ Israel over Esau/ Edom. It's just like the requirement in discipleship, in which one is to "hate" their parents, yet the commandment says to honor your parents. It's also like the statement about 2 masters: you will love the one and hate the other. It's about priority of commitment. "If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple." Luke 14:26 And yet... "For God commanded, saying, 'Honor your father and your mother'; and, He who curses father or mother, let him be put to death.'" Matthew 15:4 ""No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other..." Luke 16:13