watched not heard

We can't control what people may think of us, but we can be sure that people are in some way affected by how we act and what we say—or don't say.

I've had some curious encounters with people over the years, and it's not because I said anything to them, but because they have observed something about me and come to whatever conclusions.

When I first started working for my present employer in '86, I was in our breakroom by myself, and a woman walks in and comes up to me and says, “It's OK to use profanity, as long as you don't use God's name in vain.” I don't recall having said anything to her, or what motivated her to even say that to me.

I was operating a stamping press with another man, and for some reason, I showed him a picture of me when I graduated from High school. He thought it was funny that I had kind of long hair—the back touched my collar, and the sides were below my ears. He goes and shows it to one of the supervisors at work. That supervisor comes up to me and points his finger in my face and exclaims: “And that is why I don't go to church!” I don't know what that was all about. I don't recall talking to him about anything before.

One day at work, while running a press, the fork truck driver pulls up near me and says, “stop trying to be perfect, there's only one who is perfect!”   

One day at work (many years ago), I was in a meeting, and everyone who worked in the transfer press department were in that meeting. The group leader put up on an overhead projector something sexually obscene as a joke. The group was all men except for one woman in our group. After the meeting, she comes up to me and says how inappropriate and embarrassing it was for her and asked me if I didn't think it was wrong. I did. And I should have said something about it.

One day a co-worker comes up to me and asks me, “how can a man of God have the tongue of the devil?” I knew who he was talking about. I didn't have an answer for him. It seems that some Christians must think it's ok to use coarse language. I suppose that's why the guy asked me the question, since I didn't believe it is ok.

No too long ago a co-worker comes up to me and says, “I'm not pro-abortion, but pro-choice.” I suppose he approaches me and makes this declaration, because he assumed I am prolife. But I said to him that those who are prolife don't see it that way. If abortion is taking a life, then it is wrong to do it.

Someone once said to me that I say more by what I don't say than by what I do say. I suppose that has been my experience. I could have a lot to say if people wanted to actually have a conversation, but I think most want to avoid talking about things they know little about. So, I usually keep a lot of what I believe to myself, and maybe my conduct speaks in some way.

A co-worker once said to me that he had to put up with “Bible Thumpers” where he used to live. I've never given him a reason to think I'm a Bible Thumper. I don't think I have ever discussed anything spiritual with him. About a year ago, he came up to me and asked, “you are a church goer, aren't you?” I said that I was. He asked me to pray for him, because he was getting a certain surgery. I said I would. He has always treated me respectfully.

I think people are afraid to engage me in spiritual conversation, but they are watching me and my conduct.